A friend of mine asked me to help her with a spell for her love life. She’s in a kind of complicated emotional situation. She’s found someone that she loves and cares for very much, and she tells me that every time she’s with him is the happiest moment of her life, but for some reason she still can’t stand to be with him. So I asked her if it was because she was so terribly afraid that things would go wrong that she’d rather not be with him at all than to get rejected by him. She said this was true. The only thing I can think of for her are a few herbal remedies to ease anxiety, but is there anything more powerful I can do? This girl needs a lot of help with her self-esteem. BB, Seren

Hello there my dear,

Here is a spell that might help your friends sense of self worth a bit:

A Spell to Encourage Self Esteem

Lacking that happy knack of making friends easily? If you are asked to a party, do you stand around like the proverbial wallflower while everyone else is engaged in happy conversations and the sound of everybody else%u2019s laughter fills the room? Or maybe your career is stuck in a rut and you see no way to make that break for yourself to get ahead? If you think, %u201CThat%u2019s me!%u201D about any of these, then maybe the answer lies in a lack of self-esteem and the following will help%u2026.

You will need:

A bath

Lavender essential oil

Jasmine essential oil

An essential oil burner

Seven green oak leaves (Basil can be used if oak is out of season)

One purple candle

One yellow candle

Purple thread

An envelope

First, start a warm bath running and drizzle some of the lavender oil into the water.

Next light both candles and sit them near the bath.

Float the leaves in the bath and climb in.

Breathe in through your nose and hold it for a count of seven. Breathe out through your mouth for a seven count. Repeat this process six more times.

As you breathe in, visualize your lungs filling up with warm, golden light. As you breathe out, see your frustrations in your breath and watch your anger, pain, and all of the other barriers that stand in your way float away with each exhalation.

Now, totally relaxed and at ease with yourself, visualize a spot of golden light above you. Watch it get bigger and bigger before it floats down and your body is enveloped in its warm glow.

At this point, repeat the following:

%u201CI have a contribution to make.

I have words to say.

Let others hear the words I speak.

And take self-doubt away.

And let it be done, that it harm no one.%u201D

Repeat these words six more times before leaving the bath and snuffing the candles.

Thread the oak leaves onto the string and then hold them up to the light and repeat the previous verse one last time.

Fold the leaves into the envelope and place the envelope into your handbag or wallet.

End the ritual by burning the jasmine oil in the burner and letting the scent of it waft over you, removing any last traces of self-doubt.