Dear mother Rose, My name is Chaijudin(call me: Andi)I have so confuse situation here , I am married(without knowing) before and because of different of all my family can,t accept my wife, and i dunno how , my family found out our married ring and picture ,I know my wife is a widow and I know everything about her so i don,t care whatever people said , after 3 month spread because force by my family , today i check my facebook and i got a bunch of e-mail from her friend, her friend mad at me , and my wife lose her passion to live , but i didn,t know , that my wife is at the same country with me now( malaysia), I feel so bad about myself i don,t mean to did this, I don,t mean to left her , i love here very much , I just want to forgive by her(my wife)and all of her friend but how can I make my family like her(accepted) with any manner way , I try everything (and of course every way, shaman, voddoo etc. i spend a lot money to make it possible) to explain but my family can,t accept that, I been Hit by my family , and they force me to let my wife go , but I can,t , my wife said to her friend that she give up me but i can,t I am struggling without her can You Help me mother Rose? Really Hope I can live forever with her Best Regards Chaijudin Best Regards Andi
Merry Meet Andi, I can see how distressed you are about your marriage situation. However, you have repeatedly said that you love your wife. Regardless of what others say about you or your wife, you should be brave and continue this marriage even if your family does not approve. I know that in many countries, families arrange the marriage according to the religious customs and traditions of the region. However, things are changing in most countries as we speak. If you do not have a job and are dependent on your family, you may have to wait to get back with your wife. If you have a job and are independent, you should be able to go and live alone, just the two of you. However, first you have to discuss this situation with your family in a calm, positive way and let them know that you love them and that you really wish to get their blessings. Tell them that this would mean so much to you if the family accepted your wife. If your family does not agree and is determined to see you both separate, then it is your choice as to what to do next. I am not sure how old you are, but if you are an adult, and have a job, there is no reason why you both cannot live independently, maybe in another part of town. If you are not an adult, you have to find a job immediately or find a way to keep your wife safe while you work or study to get an income. When you are young, you are dependent on family for financial support or emotional support. By the time you become an adult, you should have the majority of financial and emotional support on your own. Remember that you have many choices and that the world is changing in many ways. However, if you wish to live with your wife, you may have to work harder and find ways to keep your marriage working even if there is no support from your family . Brightest Blessings. Rose.
