This is a question that people of all religions have asked. People ‘speak’ to the god or goddess of their choice in many ways and all people want to feel that the god or goddess are listening to them. It may sound silly or overly simple, but there are times when we feel a higher power is with us or listening. Another simple way, is what out questions are answered.
As you learn and practice your beliefs more, the closer you should feel to the goddess or god. That closeness is a very personal thing and no one else can tell you how to feel. Something that I tell people, which might help is - when you use any chant, spell or ritual - make some small but significant changes to make the chant, spell or ritual more personal for you. This will bring things closer to you and should make you feel closer to the god or goddess, to the elements of nature and your beliefs.