hi this rutika here from india, i hav been reading ur mails n ur experiences sinc a very long time through ur subscriptions, today i m mailing u for ur assistance which i need in m personal life….n i hope to c ur mail soon regarding all of this matter. since last 8 months i hav had a break up wid my boyfriend…but i realise the truth tht v really love eachother still…its like,v hav broken up n in anger he also went into another relationship wid his gud friend only,n now also he does call me n misses me d way i do ,he wants to meet me 2,but whn it cums to declaring a relation wid me he is really confused.he is actually binded himself unknowningly,n has lost all the hopes of being togather.n so fells tht the shuld njoy i little wid me till he gets married…..i want u to recommend me a spell for me so tht for once he makes a decision to be wid me. n his parents also support this thought of his…… thanx for ur precious time. awiating for ur reply soon. thanking u urs faithfully rutika

Hello there my dear,
One of the most common questions that I hear is something along the lines of, “Is there a way / spell that will make someone want to be with me / love me?”
Well, the short answer is, “No… there is not.”
One of the core precepts of the Wiccan faith is to harm no other. If you are weaving spells or intoning rituals which are meant to sway the minds of others, then you are by definition harming them.
Free will is one of the most precious gifts we have been granted. Spells and rituals that are designed to infringe upon that free will and force others to do things by your design, instead of in accord with their own will, steals that most precious of gift from them.
In addition, whatever feelings or desires that they manifested for you would never be real or honest, but would instead simply be the manifestation of the magics. Would you really want to be with someone under those circumstances? Never really knowing if their feelings for you were genuine… or simply the product of magic?
So, in this particular case, my best advice to you is to take the time and put in the effort to do things the old fashioned way. After all, anything really worth doing is certainly worth doing right. If it is meant to be, then there is no need to rush or hurry things – and you will be much happier in the long term from having not done something you would likely regret.
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