Hello. I tried a “love me now” spell to make my love fall in love with me. I got the spell from my friend. She’s not a witch and the spell did not work for me, so it was either something she made up or she left part of it out or something. I am in love with someone…and it’s not a crush, and it’s not just an ordinary love. We are soul mates. I can feel it. When I meditate I see us together and happy. He is in my dreams at night and in my mind all day long. I know it may sound like a lustful obsession, but it’s not. I don’t see us having sex, or dream about us having sex, or anything like that. I see us doing things that married people do…owning a house, having a family, just holding each other, eating dinner at a family table. That kind of stuff. I don’t want to wait for him any longer. I want him to love me now. Can you help me? Let me know. Thank you. -K.

Hello there my dear, One of the most common questions that I hear is something along the lines of, “Is there a way / spell that will make someone want to be with me / love me?” Well, the short answer is, “No… there is not.” One of the core precepts of the Wiccan faith is to harm no other. If you are weaving spells or intoning rituals which are meant to sway the minds of others, then you are by definition harming them. Free will is one of the most precious gifts we have been granted. Spells and rituals that are designed to infringe upon that free will and force others to do things by your design, instead of in accord with their own will, steals that most precious of gift from them. In addition, whatever feelings or desires that they manifested for you would never be real or honest, but would instead simply be the manifestation of the magics. Would you really want to be with someone under those circumstances? Never really knowing if their feelings for you were genuine… or simply the product of magic? So, in this particular case, my best advice to you is to take the time and put in the effort to do things the old fashioned way. After all, anything really worth doing is certainly worth doing right. If it is meant to be, then there is no need to rush or hurry things – and you will be much happier in the long term from having not done something you would likely regret.