Me and my boyfriend split up before Christmas,we were together for over four years,things had been a bit rocky for awhile.Even though my rational brain can see its for the best because in many ways we are so different for some reason i cant let it go.I sometimes wonder if we were together in a previous life,if we are soulmates or if someone has cursed me because i honestly feel bound to him!Its hard to explain but this is not a case of ah you’ll get over it in time,the pain i feel is excruciating and it never leaves,if youve ever heard the phrase i feel like someones just ripped my heart out;well thats exactly how i feel,the only relief i get is sleep,i cant take much more(im not suffering depression).I wonder if you could tell me a spell to relieve the pain so i can move on.I could easily ask for a love spell so that we would get back together but would it ever be a sincere love or just a farce?I just want peace,i have thought about regression because i feel there is more to this,but have noone to talk to without sounding neurotic.Please help

Hello there my dear,

One of the most common questions that I hear is something along the lines of, %u201CIs there a way / spell that will make someone want to be with me / love me?%u201D

Well, the short answer is, %u201CNo%u2026 there is not.%u201D

One of the core precepts of the Wiccan faith is to harm no other. If you are weaving spells or intoning rituals which are meant to sway the minds of others, then you are by definition harming them.

Free will is one of the most precious gifts we have been granted. Spells and rituals that are designed to infringe upon that free will and force others to do things by your design, instead of in accord with their own will, steals that most precious of gift from them.

In addition, whatever feelings or desires that they manifested for you would never be real or honest, but would instead simply be the manifestation of the magics. Would you really want to be with someone under those circumstances? Never really knowing if their feelings for you were genuine%u2026 or simply the product of magic?

So, in this particular case, my best advice to you is to take the time and put in the effort to do things the old fashioned way. After all, anything really worth doing is certainly worth doing right. If it is meant to be, then there is no need to rush or hurry things %u2013 and you will be much happier in the long term from having not done something you would likely regret.