Merry Meet, If you want to do a love spell to help open up communication and soften the heart of somone who doesnt communicate with you anymore- not necessarily a bad karma, three fold spell, but one that just wants to get a reunion so that love may blossom again – is it helpful to add at the end of the spell something like “IF it is your will, so mote it be”- so there wont be any karmic confusion and the Divine will know IF its in the best interest of all parties there will be a happy love reunion? Thank you, Blessed Be, Ally

Hello there Ally, Well dear, that is a bit of a tricky question really, as it somewhat borderlines getting others to do something that they might not otherwise wish to do and thus imposing your will over them in that “bad karma” kind of way that you mention in your question. But you are obviously aware of this and sensitive and thoughtful enough not to want such things for the person that you love… which is very good and very refreshing to hear. So many times people come to me asking me to help them bend the will or subvert the nature of another… for some reason thinking that just once will not hurt anything too terribly much. But it does, whether they want it to or not…. So, as to this particular case, I would give you the advice that I give to many… which is to sit down and talk with the person involved. Discuss with them the way you feel and what it is that has been concerning you and see if there is a way to reach a mutually beneficial outcome that you can both agree on…. Something I can offer you that might help is a spell that will boost your own self esteem and thus possibly make the discussions a bit easier over all…. A Spell to Encourage Self Esteem Lacking that happy knack of making friends easily? If you are asked to a party, do you stand around like the proverbial wallflower while everyone else is engaged in happy conversations and the sound of everybody else’s laughter fills the room? Or maybe your career is stuck in a rut and you see no way to make that break for yourself to get ahead? If you think, “That’s me!” about any of these, then maybe the answer lies in a lack of self-esteem and the following will help…. You will need: A bath Lavender essential oil Jasmine essential oil An essential oil burner Seven green oak leaves (Basil can be used if oak is out of season) One purple candle One yellow candle Purple thread An envelope First, start a warm bath running and drizzle some of the lavender oil into the water. Next light both candles and sit them near the bath. Float the leaves in the bath and climb in. Breathe in through your nose and hold it for a count of seven. Breathe out through your mouth for a seven count. Repeat this process six more times. As you breathe in, visualize your lungs filling up with warm, golden light. As you breathe out, see your frustrations in your breath and watch your anger, pain, and all of the other barriers that stand in your way float away with each exhalation. Now, totally relaxed and at ease with yourself, visualize a spot of golden light above you. Watch it get bigger and bigger before it floats down and your body is enveloped in its warm glow. At this point, repeat the following: “I have a contribution to make. I have words to say. Let others hear the words I speak. And take self-doubt away. And let it be done, that it harm no one.” Repeat these words six more times before leaving the bath and snuffing the candles. Thread the oak leaves onto the string and then hold them up to the light and repeat the previous verse one last time. Fold the leaves into the envelope and place the envelope into your handbag or wallet. End the ritual by burning the jasmine oil in the burner and letting the scent of it waft over you, removing any last traces of self-doubt.